A Time for Everything: FIND PEACE

27 May

Ecclesiastes 3

A Time for Everything

 1 For everything there is a season,

      a time for every activity under heaven.

 2 A time to be born and a time to die.

      A time to plant and a time to harvest.

 3 A time to kill and a time to heal.

      A time to tear down and a time to build up.

 4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.

      A time to grieve and a time to dance.

 5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.

      A time to embrace and a time to turn away.

 6 A time to search and a time to quit searching.

      A time to keep and a time to throw away.

 7 A time to tear and a time to mend.

      A time to be quiet and a time to speak.

 8 A time to love and a time to hate.

      A time for war and a time for peace.

 9 What do people really get for all their hard work? 10 I have seen the burden God has placed on us all. 11 Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. 12 So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. 13 And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.

 14 And I know that whatever God does is final. Nothing can be added to it or taken from it. God’s purpose is that people should fear him. 15 What is happening now has happened before, and what will happen in the future has happened before, because God makes the same things happen over and over again.

Hey! So I have been thinking about something. Why are so many single people unhappy? Every time I go on Facebook or read a tweet, some one is talking about being alone and lamenting on how life could be that much sweeter if they could be in a relationship. WORD?!?!?! I am enjoying life, alone. I go out with my friends, whenever I feel like it. I travel on a whim all the time. I have the time to put in random hours for my budding company.

In a relationship, I just won’t have this freedom. I am truly happy, lacking nothing. I am so invested in living my life alone, sometimes I don’t remember my relationship status until someone brings it up or my hormones kick in…. but I digress lol. Even when I think of  my singleness, and the sacrifices therein, I focus on the big picture and God’s timing. I realize that I must be happy alone because in a relationship someone will be happy with me ALONE. And if I am not happy now, then he (who I don’t know) will be unhappy with me.

If you are a person who is not happy with you being alone, then I pray for the man or woman you end up with. Realize people like you become a burden and annoying, this is probably why your alone and are having such a hard time dealing with your singleness.

People in relationships will tell you its work. Please believe them. I am not looking forward to the ‘work’ of a relationship. Of course, all the cute stuff is great. The holding, kissing….. OKAY….. you get my drift 🙂 Honestly, as a single woman who has a lot of friends in relationships, I have heard it all. The doubts, the questions, the hurts, the pain, and the fierce, all consuming love between two people. Is it worth it? AB-SO-FREAKIN-LOUTELY! But understand there is a time for everything. So my question to all the Single Ladies and Men. In this time, what are you supposed to be doing?

Alright, some of you are like, Queen, I am living out my purpose! I have a good job, a nice home, and growing relationship with God…. WHAT IS THE PROBLEM? You want to know the problem. I will tell you. You have little or no PEACE. What is peace?

Peace is a state of mutual harmony between people or groups, especially in personal relations, according to dictionary.com. A happy single is at peace with the status of their life. Of course, they have rough days, but nevertheless they understand who is really running the show (GOD) and is in harmony with him on the status of their life.

To all those people who are itching for this great relationship, Understand that God will bring you that great man/woman, while you are doing what you have been called to do. He or She will manifest when the TIME is right. I dare you to not moan or lament on your singlehood, but find true peace in where God has placed you.


Love Hard. Live Harder.

The Queen


2 Responses to “A Time for Everything: FIND PEACE”

  1. Jackie May 27, 2011 at 12:29 AM #

    This is so true! Some of this may be very hard to swallow for some, but the reality is you’re right. There’s a time for everything, so we all need to cherish what we have going on in our Iives now so that we can be better prepared for whatever comes next! And the message about peace? Yea it’s key to everything! Love you Dean! Can’t wait to read the next one 🙂

  2. Lindsey May 27, 2011 at 12:34 AM #

    LOVE this sis! And I can hear your voice with every word I read. As a married woman (who vividly recalls her singleness) I agree that your mate should find you doing. Most often, we turn off those who are looking by our complaints. Even those who are not looking could stumble upon our beauty if they found us content and about our business instead of wearing a facade of peace. Also, trust that though marriage requires work, it is not bondage but freedom. Freedom to explore and display love in a way that mirrors Christ. While there is freedom in singleness, there is also a freedom in marriage. I believe that God does not respect one over the other, He simply uses them to display Himself in different ways.

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