Hormones: A Single’s Kryptonite

28 May

“I could be calm right now. But I have been drinking tequila shots, my hormones are raging out of control, I’m emotional, I’m horny, and I don’t wanna hear about no ******* peas! **** you! Good night! “

The Best Man


“You know what, I know this isn’t you talking, it’s your hormones”

Knocked Up


“You really need to get those hormones under control”

The Initiation of Sarah

You are out with friends and the food is great. The new tapas restaurant in town is really good. You all have just finished retelling a hilarious story about something very random. While picking up the lukewarm spinach empanada you ordered, you feel a breeze enter in the restaurant. You turn in your seat to put on your jacket and then BOOM. You catch eyes with a brooks brother suit wearing Adonis, with his tie slightly loosened…. you are thinking its 8pm…. he pulls long hours at work. He proceeds to the bar area to just sit alone and eat a quick meal before heading to his condo (hey! a girl can guesstimate… I already peeped his Rolex and BMW keys). He takes off his suit jacket, loosening his tie a little more and looks around the room. You catch each other eyes. HORMONES!!!!!!!!!

Men do the same thing. You know when that woman in church wears something that is hugging her nicely. You have seen her in passing somewhere, maybe at a networking function. You think, wow she could be the one. You stare the whole service. And upon leaving the sanctuary, after you have had to two or more hours to focus on her…… mind (of course, just her mind, even though you never spoke to her)…. She turns to put on her coat and you catch eyes. BOOM HORMONES!!!!

Any single person could have this moment. I’m here to tell you that you are not alone. I do not think christian singles discuss natural things that happen to us. All we hear is wait. But that is easier said than done.
What about the time between meeting someone great and the wedding? How can we keep our HORMONES in check? Honestly, we fall into temptation with people we know, or in relations with on a regular basis. Or other times, it is just that a look turns into a thought and a thought morphs into an action. So what do we do??? FIND A WAY OF ESCAPE!


1 Corinthians 10:12-13

New Living Translation (NLT)


 12 If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall. 13 The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

God promises that he will reveal a way of escape. What I had to realize… is that I must be proactive in seeking and utilizing the escape route. I have been in situations and circumstances where I knew I had to remove myself. I reflect on those times I stayed and the excuse was ‘God is allowing this to happen’. Well, he didn’t… I allowed it. As I ponder on some horrid mistakes I made, I do remember a ‘way of escape’ each time. As I grow older and wiser, I am more cognizant of my mind and body and how it reacts.A way of escape, for you, might mean checking out a slightly boring bible study, instead of going to a spot where you know ‘someone’ will be. Maybe after 1am you cannot talk to your boo. Sometimes, a way of escape might have been obvious for a while.

For example, I am a connoisseur of romance novels. The trashy ones…. with no plot… just passion.. and other thing. My justification was that I am not dong anything thing in the books, it’s just entertainment (This sounds like a crock of dung while typing).  I am truly a lover of all books. I read everything. I personally love Irish plays… but a romance novel is my go to book. When I go to the library…. I always check out 3 books…. one must be romance. I started to realize that my love these novels fed my imagination and HORMONES.  As innocent as this sounds, I was planting seeds that could not be manifested.

I had to cut my romance reading (down…. I still read them occasionally.. I am a work in progress), and even infused some christian fiction :0 I needed to escape from the clutches of lusting after…. lust. My goal is love, true love. The only thing that can come out of lust is trouble. My Way of Escape, changing my reading habits. Did this help overnight…. HECK NO… But slowly I am seeing changes. I had to slowly renew my mind….

Romans 12:1-2

A Living Sacrifice

 1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Some things we do, say or think are not pleasing to God. Do they satisfy your flesh, of course. I realize that I provoke my HORMONES to come to the surface. I am determined to leave them dormant until God wants them to come forth. I am on a diet of sorts…. Because I understand Kryptonite will kill you or have you wake up somewhere you shouldn’t… or even just have you thinking thoughts that aren’t pleasing to God. Think about your life and your HORMONES…. Are they in check? If not, what is your way of escaping this stronghold…

Love Hard. Live Harder


The Queen


2 Responses to “Hormones: A Single’s Kryptonite”

  1. Jackie May 28, 2011 at 3:36 PM #

    You already know this is what I needed to read! Sometimes finding an escape is difficult to do but it is definitely necessary. Thoughts are just as bad as actions so something has to substitute both… Something that’s pleasing in God’s sight. We as Christians are always a work in progress. We’re not perfect but God always places these alternative routes around us to help us stay on track. We just have to tap into it. Thank you for this 🙂

  2. Courtney May 29, 2011 at 8:09 AM #

    Just to be real…hormones affect married folk just as strongly….and when the thought is provoked by a glance from someone other than your spouse, there is even more to factor in! But the great thing about our thoughts is that we can change them as quickly as they enter our mind! Thanks….This post was right on time!

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