All I need is ONE

14 Jun

One step

One breath

One love

One name

So it’s one me

One ring

One church

And one preacher

One promise

Two little words

I Do

One/ Tyrese/ Alter Ego

I get a lot of flack about not dating enough. I usually do not take every dating opportunity presented to me. Why? Because I know it is a waste of my time and his time. You always know from the beginning if there can be a possibility of moving forward. From the gate, you are removed if you are not a practicing Christian (We all make mistakes, and I have learned from mine… thus this rule). Some might ask, What about just having fun and spending time with a man? I can have all the fun I want with my friends and family. Spending time with the wrong man or too many men is counterproductive. The goal is to be united with the one God has for me, so why use time that God has given me for his work on someone who he didn’t create for me? My focus is on the work of the Lord. I want to be so close to God… do what he has purposed me to do… I want to please God.

1 Corinthians 7:26-35

Contemporary English Version (CEV)

26We are now going through hard times, and I think it is best for you to stay as you are. 27If you are married, stay married. If you are not married, don’t try to get married. 28It isn’t wrong to marry, even if you have never been married before. But those who marry will have a lot of trouble, and I want to protect you from that. 29My friends, what I mean is that the Lord will soon come, [a] and it won’t matter if you are married or not. 30It will be all the same if you are crying or laughing, or if you are buying or are completely broke. 31It won’t make any difference how much good you are getting from this world or how much you like it. This world as we know it is now passing away. 32I want all of you to be free from worry. An unmarried man worries about how to please the Lord. 33But a married man has more worries. He must worry about the things of this world, because he wants to please his wife. 34So he is pulled in two directions. Unmarried women and women who have never been married [b] worry only about pleasing the Lord, and they keep their bodies and minds pure. But a married woman worries about the things of this world, because she wants to please her husband. 35What I am saying is for your own good–it isn’t to limit your freedom. I want to help you to live right and to love the Lord above all else.

I believe that God will give every believer a mate, if that is his or her true heart’s desire. I know a couple of people who do not want to be married and are very content with being single. As much as I am content in my singleness, I do have a desire to share this life with someone. To become partners in ministry and build something new with a man of God. Before this, I must accomplish the plethora of work God has given me now. So dating just for dating sake is a determent to the work I have to do. Yes, when a nice stable Christian pursues me properly, I always book that date. But accepting EVERY man who gives me an opportunity to spend time with them, out of the question. How is that going to build my relationship with God? I am going to delight myself in kingdom work.

Psalm 37:3-7

New Living Translation (NLT)

3 Trust in the Lord and do good.
Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
 4 Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.

5 Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.
 6 He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn,
 and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun.

7 Be still in the presence of the Lord,
and wait patiently for him to act.
Don’t worry about evil people who prosper
or fret about their wicked schemes.

All of my friends are dating tons of people…How am I going to find the ‘one’ if I don’t put myself out there? My answer to that question, STOP TRYING TO PLAY GOD. I promise, if you really get on with the things God has set out there for you now, he will divinely orchestrate a union for you. I loathe the saying ‘ You will get a man when you stop thinking about it’…. NEGATIVE. You won’t ever stop thinking about it, but you will receive the one for you by ‘divine intervention’. Take heart, its already done. God has who he wants for you and has a time and place for this person to be revealed to you. All God wants you to do, right now, is serve him. Let him do the work of finding a mate, just be in a position to receive that one person.


Love hard. Live Harder.

The Queen


3 Responses to “All I need is ONE”

  1. renee June 14, 2011 at 4:06 PM #

    wow…it’s amazing how much I have tried to articulate this conversation and couldn’t find the words, but then I read your blog. Thanks for letting God use you, this was just what I needed. In a world where we’re so conditioned to see how close we can get to the line without falling to the other side, it’s refreshing to see a reminder that it’s ok wait for “one”. GREAT stuff…I shall be sharing with others!

  2. DeAnna June 15, 2011 at 12:17 AM #

    i like this one

  3. Alan OnePurpose Jean June 15, 2011 at 10:46 AM #

    This is on point. There is no time to be wasted on senseless relationships. That’s how you either end up heartbroken or marrying someone you shouldn’t (and wouldn’t) be with in the first place. I, Alan Jean, hereby support the opinion and ways of the Queen. LOL. Keep your standards sis!

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