DON’T SMILE

3 Jul

You ever saw a picture with someone who has a fake smile? It is THEE worse. To the viewer, we don’t understand why you even took the picture. It is obvious that something is wrong and picture time is not the best thing for you right now. You know what happened. Someone forced him or her to take that picture. They prodded and pushed until the person caved in and said, OK. And guess who ended up looking stupid… the innocent one. I am known for my realness. I usually tell people how I feel and what I think, without a censorship. I believe honesty is the best policy, so today I will declare today DON’T SMILE.

I dedicate this song to recession,

depression and unemployment.

This song’s for you.

 

Today’s a new day, and there is no sunshine.

Nothing but clouds, and it’s dark in my heart

and it feels like a cold night.

Today’s a new day, where are my blue skies,

where is the love and the joy that you promised me

you tell me it’s alright.

 

(I’ll be honest with you)

I almost gave up, but a power that I can’t explain,

fell from heaven like a shower.

 

(When I think how much better I’m gonna be when this is over)

I smile, even though I’m hurt see I smile,

I know God is working so I smile,

Even though I’ve been here for a while

I smile, smile..

it’s so hard to look up when you look down.

Sure would hate to see it when you give up now

You look so much better when you smile, so smile.

 

Today’s a new day, but there is no sunshine.

Nothing but clouds, and it’s dark in my heart,

and it feels like a cold night.

Today’s a new day, tell me where are my blue skies,

where is the love and the joy that you promised me

you tell me it’s alright.

 

(the truth is)

I almost gave up, but a power that I can’t explain

fell from heaven like a shower.

 

I smile, even though I’m hurt see I smile,

I know God is working so I smile,

Even though I’ve been here for a while

I smile, smile..

it’s so hard to look up when you look down.

Sure would hate to see it when you give up now

You look so much better when you smile.

 

Kirk Franklin- Smile

A lot of people are going through some major changes in life. God orchestrated changes. Even when God is preparing you for greater, the process sometimes hurts. I don’t believe it benefits anyone in your life to be fake. I might look better when I smile but it doesn’t change the status of my life. I can know God is working without smiling. I believe if you don’t smile when you are hurting, it gives someone on opportunity to minister to you. Honestly, I have a love hate relationship with Kirk Franklin’s Smile. I get what he is trying to say but I truly think it is unrealistic…Especially for people who are actually dealing with recession, depression and unemployment. It leaves those people in denial if they just ‘smile’ through it. If you want to cry, yell, scream, or shout – DO IT. Really, people do not feel better just because they smile. Love to hear if you agree or disagree…. Either way…

XOXO

Love Hard. Live Harder

The Queen

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5 Responses to “DON’T SMILE”

  1. Alan OnePurpose Jean July 3, 2011 at 10:45 PM #

    Okay. I agree with both you and the song. When I listen to that song and/or tell someone to smile through the troubles, I only expect that response when the person realizes all the things to smile for. Even when it says to take joy in tribulations in the book of James, it tells you why. I believe in the midst of even recession, depression, and unemployment, there is still something to smile about. At the same time, I wouldn’t expect the person going through that to smile until they begin to realize that thing to still smile about. I believe that in everything, God is still good and worthy to be praised and smile about but at the same time, I realize that the troubles of this life can fog up our lenses and keep us from seeing that. So, I believe you should smile once you clear up your lenses and see the light at the end of the tunnel.

  2. Brittany Turner July 4, 2011 at 12:46 PM #

    Ok sis. I see what your saying but I also agree with James to smile and take joy in tribulations like my man said above. But, I like the song. A lot actually. Only because I believe that depression is a state of mind and a spirit. God didn’t give it to us but did give us donminion over it. Its up to us to look at all that’s going on, and even when we want to cry, not fake it but push past it to trust God. This song is about not giving up and praising God anyhow. I’m not where I want to be, but I’m learning as the Bible teaches to be content in all things. That’s why I smile. It doesn’t mean I never cry, scream, or shout. On the contrarty, it means after I turn to my Father in dispair, He answers with His peace that everything will be alright. So I smile in the safety and satisfaction of lnowing that everything is alright.

    Plus, on a nurse tip, a genuine smile (which I just described above and the song bc the smile should reflect security and trust in God), it actually releases endorphins- the feel good hormones. So you actually do feel a little bit better. Not enough to drastically alter your mood or outlook, but just a little pick me up, and who doesn’t need that every now and again, especially nowadays.

    So I say, don’t fake a smile, but trust God in the process and the storm and smile at the enemy bc you know your victorious abd taken care of in Christ.

    Love you sis! Good blog!

  3. DeAnna July 4, 2011 at 8:32 PM #

    LOVE.

    its funny because I was one of those people you described. i was so messed up inside for years, but no one would have known it because i had a perpetual smile. i knew how to make my smile look genuine too. i thought well if i smile then it would make things better and no one would pitty me…ppl complimented me on my optimism and joy; my nickname was “smiley”

    but the fact of the matter is, it wasnt joy. i understand what brit is sayin how smiling makes you feel better, and is a pick me up. but like she says, not enough to drastically alter….and thats what i needed. so my smile just masked my hurt so i couldnt get help from those who loved me bc they didnt know. it made me stop hurting for a lil bit but didnt give me joy.

    so i love your post. we need to be real with ourselves and our feelings. if need to scream, cry, whatever, DO IT. however, i understand the song and ive attached my own meanin or clause or whatever to it. the line that stands out to me “I know that God is working so I smile” speaks to me of true JOY. you can smile all you want thru your hurt but unless you have JOY that smile is a fake. and true joy is not necessarily being “happy” all the time, its knowin that no matter the circumstance, God is still God and He got you. thats why you smile even when youre hurting.

    i had to learn that.

  4. DeAnna July 4, 2011 at 8:33 PM #

    i spelled pity wrong. smh

  5. Lindsey July 6, 2011 at 6:06 PM #

    Smiling through difficult times can be challenging. Some subscribe to the idea of “fake it til you make it.” Others do not. Either way, guard the words you speak (Proverbs 18:20-21). When you can’t just smile, this may help:

    “Lift my hands
    Give You praise in the midst of each storm
    Cause You are worthy
    When life’s sorrows and heartaches rush in
    I will remember
    You are still worthy
    Let the words of my mouth
    Leave no room for doubt
    Because down through the years You’ve been faithful
    And when I think it all through
    Oh Lord it’s been You
    Who’s been there all the time
    And I’m grateful…

    Lord I know that You know what’s best for me
    Even when my weary eyes can’t see
    I really wanna thank You
    Lord I won’t complain”

    – F. Hammond – Thank You (I Won’t Complain)

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