Kiss ‘Kissing’ Goodbye

25 Aug

I just kissed the softest lips that God has ever made

And I am so in love with the girl to whom these lips he gave


(First Verse)

Mmmm, soft as a feather on an angels wing

Mmmm, babe, girl you’re such a pretty thing

Yes you are

Mmmm, like I’m on a cloud above, yeah

Think I’m falling so in love

(chorus x2)


(Second Verse)

Mmmm, girl won’t you kiss me once again

Mmmm, babe, don’t you stop till I say when

Like the sweetest crime

Feel it all up and down my spine

(chorus x2)



Never thought that when I would close my eyes

That I would be in for such a lovely surprise

I have never felt a kiss feel like this

And I just could not resist from falling, falling, falling

Oh, falling, falling, falling, falling, falling, falling

Falling in love with you


Eric Roberson/ Softest Lips

Think back to a kiss that you had with someone. Try to find a good one, that earth-shattering, stop the world moment. It was just you and this person interlocking. Think of how you felt when it was over, the connection that you felt. Now come back to the present and evaluate the person on the other side. Was it worth it? That pleasure. The fun. The rush. I was listening to Eric Roberson’s music the other day. BTW If you never heard of this brother, please go and buy his work! Start with The Vault Vol. 1. I digress. Any who, the track ‘Softest Lips’ played… and I went right back to that moment, that kiss, then it hit me. How much emotion do we attach to kissing?

My girlfriends and I had dinner the other night and we started talking about intimacy with a man. In this particular group, most of the women had at least one sexual experience before. To my dismay, one of my girls said ‘Kissing is much more intimate than actually having sex’ WORD. WORD LIFE?!?! She was so serious too! She went on to explain how kissing is much more than an act and how personal it can be. I went home and thought about a friend I had in undergrad. He would always call me and talk about his ‘encounters’ with women. He said he wasn’t ready for a relationship but recognized his need for sex. He told me, ‘I don’t kiss the women I deal with now, because I know how much deeper it would take things.’ So now I am thinking, Should I kiss ‘kissing’ goodbye?

Really, if I am remaining abstinent from sex, why am I not abstaining from kissing? Some of the reasons are similar. Aren’t they? For me, it is just an expression of what I am building with a man. I do not casually kiss men I meet, but if I am courting/seriously dating someone, I will most likely kiss him. WAIT! Will I kiss him at certain vulnerable times and/or places. NO! I know that I am in flesh and one thing can lead to another and this will turn into a blog about how I fell and how I need forgiveness. Then the judging religious folk will commence to talk about me and others will smile at the fact another Christian woman has failed. Again, I digress.

On MTV’s Real Life: I’m a Newlywed, one couple did not kiss until the wedding. I watched and thought, it couldn’t be me. But now I am thinking, Should it be me? Honestly, what do you all think? Should you kiss KISSING Goodbye?


Love Hard. Live Harder.

The Queen


11 Responses to “Kiss ‘Kissing’ Goodbye”

  1. denisespeaks August 25, 2011 at 11:54 AM #

    Hey! I enjoyed reading this…this is something that I have discussed and contemplated on for a long time! “Courting:To kiss or not to kiss” I’ve been single and NOT kissing since 2007 and it feels great! I have hopes of not kissing until the wedding day, I also hope that my future courtship partner/mate/whatever he is to be called would have the same mindset. We shall see when/if that season comes. Keep living righteous girl, love it!

    • erikathequeen August 25, 2011 at 12:14 PM #

      Glad you enjoyed the post. It is refreshing to see women who are actually trying ‘something different.’ Thanks for the support!

  2. JustLissen August 25, 2011 at 12:00 PM #

    I respect the concept, but I know that I won’t do it. I want to say that I can’t… but I could, I just don’t want to. I like the pressure of feeling anothers mouth on mine. And though I don’t kiss a lot of men, I do know by the kiss whether or not I can see myself with you.
    But if this is what you are going to do, then I support you and I encourage you!

    • erikathequeen August 25, 2011 at 12:09 PM #

      In the 3rd paragraph, I explain my personal stance in detail :)…. I know, with certain boundaries, that I wont kiss ‘kissing’ goodbye. Like you, I am willing to support and encourage those who do! Thanks for the comment!

  3. Anonymous August 25, 2011 at 5:42 PM #

    Abstain from kissing but not from sex and start eating chicken and all will be better! Just my opinion!

    • erikathequeen August 25, 2011 at 5:46 PM #

      I think I will stay away from the meat AND sex. LOL I love you ‘Anonymous’ ‘Thanks for the comment!

  4. Deriberry August 25, 2011 at 6:57 PM #

    Totally enjoyed this!! I had to skim through the song lyrics because it was too much for me lol!!! I have been single and kiss free since *cough* 05. I know it’s hard to believe right!!! Anyway a few closet friends of mine didn’t kiss until the wedding and I sat in shock and awe like “oh heck no” but I’m seriously considering joining their team!!!

    • erikathequeen August 25, 2011 at 7:03 PM #

      I had to quickly pass the song in progress a couple times 🙂 Thanks for your comment!

  5. DeAnna August 25, 2011 at 11:04 PM #

    forgive me for this long comment.

    First of all, that next to last paragraph where you digress? LOL totally me, i followed that thought all the way through, my mind wanders like that too…

    anyways, i have seriously been contemplating this lately, whether or not i want to be kiss free. before marriage i have mixed feelings about it, probably bc my flesh is just screaming NO!! lol. seriously tho, i want to maintain that purity in my relationships bc i know exactly where kissing can and has taken me. but i also know what kind of sensual/sexual person i am and i do not want/will not be with a man who won’t do certain things or one that i dont have an electricity with.

    that being said, i was listening to this sermon series by pastor battle where he was going thru song of solomon. he mentioned that solomon and the shulamite woman, before their wedding night, only showed any kind of affection in public.

    so i guess i have decided that i am going to do my VERY BEST not to kiss until i get down that aisle…or be engaged (bc i may have to practice, i dont want the kiss at the wedding to be awkward bc we dont know what we doing lol). i have to trust that God will provide me with the freak i need without it being “tried out” beforehand. and i want to make sure that my person agrees with that as well. but even if i slip up and it happens before then, it will be somewhere IN PUBLIC bc i KNOW myself.

    • erikathequeen August 26, 2011 at 1:44 AM #

      All one can do is try and leave the rest to God. Honestly, I’ll see when I get into a relationship. I just don’t want to be the person who says one thing now, and then later on when I am in a relationship you see pictures of me and my man kissing. Plus I know me… Yea…. I feel you on many levels. I enjoyed your comment and the length too!

  6. daluvelyladyl August 27, 2011 at 6:27 PM #

    This was a good one. I’ve lost innocence long ago, but I feel kissing is intimate and reserved for those deserving. Lots of men don’t kiss women they are “just sleeping with” because they don’t feel they deserve intimacy or to create the barrier that these women are just for sex. Something to think about.

    Love you.

    LD ❤

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